Saturday, November 12, 2011

Top 10 Reasons for Staying in an Unhappy Marriage

Staying in unhappy Marriages

There are several couples who stay in their marriages even if they are not happy because of several reasons. Three years back a billboard proclaiming "Life's short. Get a divorce" by a Chicago Divorce Lawyers Firm caused enough of an uproar and criticism from all over. But the legal firm made no apologies saying the ad isn't for everyone, but instead targets couples looking for a way out of a bad marital situation. Honestly, I see nothing wrong in people opting out of an unhappy marriage when there is no hope of salvaging the relationship. I believe that marriages are forever. At the same time I think once a relationship is broken no amount of mending can make it the same again.
People’s outlook on Divorce is changing these days. One of my friends who recently got divorced even threw a Divorce Party. I have personally witnessed some of my friends who were divorced from their miserable first marriages find a very contented and happy second marriage. I also was surprised to see Divorce greeting cards a few months ago when I was looking for a suitable online greeting card for one of my friend’s marriage. Here are ten Reasons why people stay glued to their unhappy marriages.
1) For Kids: Children are the worst sufferers when it comes to divorces. Many parents just stay in their unhappy marriages as they love their kids and would not want to cause any harm to them.
2) Money and Perks: Some Woman tends to stay in their marriages because of the comforts and perks they get in the husbands house. The same applies for a man who survives mostly on his wife’s income.
3) Low Self Esteem: Some has low self esteem, doesn't know his/her worth and doesn't realize he/she can do better. Many even lose hope of ever being happy.
4) Do not want to be like the Parents : Several people try to make their unhappy marriage work because they do not want to be like their Parents who have a history of Divorces and have personally suffered the consequences of their actions.
5) Society and Religion: People getting divorced are looked down by the society and some religions. So many pretend that they have a happy marriage even if they are suffering.
6) Guilt : Those who have opted for love marriages normally do not have the support of their parents when things turn sour as they themselves are blame for their own plight and are ashamed of their bad choice. So many of them try to make their relationship work or stay in their unhappy relationships to prove to themselves and their parents that their choice was not wrong and that they are happy with their choices.
7) Loneliness: Many people stay in their unhappy marriages as they are lonely and have no parents or friends to turn to and find security in their marriage even though they are not happy.
8) Property : Some people stay together as they have accumulate wealth together like a house or business or even a pet dog which both are attached to and would not want to give them up for any reason.
9) Freedom to live independent lives: Some couples come to an agreement or compromise on both living life the way they wanted like the husband can spend time with his girlfriend and the wife can spend time with her boyfriend but stay together under the same roof and remaining a happy couple to the outside World.
10) Been forced to stay together: Sometimes couples are forced to stay together because of society pressures and pressures of parents or relatives who are worried about their reputation than two unhappy people.
Whatever the reasons, is it worth staying in an unhappy marriage? Personally I have witnessed many unhappy relationships and people are trying to make it work. I can't imagine them of living a miserable life for so many years trying to make it work. Why do people try so hard to make a failing relationship work when all the love is lost? Why not just leave and find the right person or try living a better life? After all, Life is too short to spend being miserable and it is better to accept it and move on.

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