Saturday, October 29, 2011

Women 'want rich husbands, not careers': New survey claims drive for gender equality is a myth

Woman still want to ‘marry up’ and naturally choose husbands who earn more than themselves, a report suggests.
The idea of most women wanting to be financially independent is a myth, according to Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics.
Despite years of equality campaigning, more women are choosing to marry wealthy men than in the 1940s, the expert claims.
In her report, published by the Centre for Policy Studies think tank, she suggests men dominate the top positions because women simply do not want careers in business.
She criticised David Cameron for backing the idea of quotas to ensure that leading companies appointed more women to their boards.
‘Women’s aspiration to marry up, if they can, to a man who is better-educated and higher-earning persists in most European countries,’ she said. ‘Women thereby continue to use marriage as an alternative or supplement to their employment careers.’
The research, which drew on existing data drawn from Britain and Spain, showed that 20 per cent of British women married husbands with a significantly better education than their own in 1949.
By the 1990s, the percentage of women deciding to ‘marry up’ had climbed to 38 per cent – with a similar pattern repeated in the rest of Europe, the US and Australia.
The report concluded that equal roles in the family, where husband and wife shared employment, childcare and housework, was ‘not the ideal sought by most couples’. 
Dr Hakim added: ‘It is thus not surprising that wives generally earn less than their husbands, and that most couples rationally decide that it makes sense for her to take on the larger share of child care, and to use most or all the parental leave allowance.’ Her report also suggests that many women do not want to admit they want to be a housewife – even to their partners.
‘It has become impossible to say, “I wouldn’t mind being a housewife,” she said.
‘It is so politically incorrect that a lot of women don’t want to admit it.’
The study comes after a series of measures announced by the Coalition intended to decrease the pay difference between women and men.
Dr Hakim also accuses feminists of peddling a string of myths and manufacturing ‘political ammunition for a war that has ended’. 
She says: ‘Women today have more choices than men, including real choices between a focus on family work and/or paid employment.
‘Despite this, many politicians and feminists appear disappointed with the slow pace of change in women’s attainment of top jobs.
Sex differences are treated as self-evident proof of widespread sex discrimination and sex-role stereotyping rather than the result of personal choices and preferences. 
‘Demands for further change rest on faulty assumptions and dated evidence. The latest research shows that most of the theories and ideas built up around gender equality in the last few decades are wrong. 
‘Despite feminist claims, the truth is that many men and women have different career aspirations, priorities, and life goals.
‘Policy makers should therefore not expect the same job outcomes.’
The report is scathing about EU plans to offer pregnant women 20 weeks of maternity leave on full pay. 
It says that so-called ‘family-friendly’ policies ‘generally reduce gender equality in the workforce, rather than raising it’. 
Critics argue that generous maternity provisions make employers wary of taking on women of childbearing age.

Monday, October 24, 2011

What to Do When You Lose Your Job

1. Understand Your Options.
Most companies provide some sort of severance or termination letter. Be sure to review it carefully. Check with a lawyer if you think it makes sense. Give yourself some time to think about your rights and options before you sign anything.
2. Tell Your Loved Ones.
Losing your job can make you feel alone and hopeless. This is not the time to feel ashamed and try to hide what is happening. You didn’t make this happen and it won’t affect just you. Talk to someone who will be understanding and give you some emotional support. Let your kids know that you’ll be going through a transition. You’ll be setting a great example by showing people you can handle a setback.
3. Identify Your Resources.
Losing your job is a major disruption. Get your supports in place as quickly as possible. Sign up for unemployment insurance. Check on health insurance. Find out what the company, government, and anyone else offers to help you with a successful new job search.
4. Plan Your New Work Day.
Looking for a job is a job in itself. Before you lost your job, your workday was planned for you. Now it’s up to you. Make a list of things you need to do. This will probably include updating your resume, conducting online searches, making phone calls, and setting up meetings. Set up a place where you will work. Make a schedule for yourself and stick to it. Treating your job search like a job will get you moving back to where you want to be!
5. Be Good To Yourself.
Whether you saw it coming or not, losing your job is a shock. Your emotions will take a little time to adjust. If you need it, have a little pity party, then get yourself back on track. This is a great time to reconnect with yourself, your family and friends. Remember all of the great things you have done and all the great things you have left to do.

Losing a job is hard for everyone. You can’t change that. But you can show everyone that taking care of yourself and moving forward with a winning attitude leads to bigger and better things in the future!

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Who is more unfaithful men or women?

Think men are the unfaithful sex? A study shows WOMEN are the biggest cheats - they're just better at lying about it.
Are men or women more likely to cheat? While men have always had a worse reputation for being unfaithful, recent studies show that women are catching up fast - but we are a lot more likely to lie about it, and a lot less likely to get caught.
Simply put, it seems that women are better at having affairs than men. 
According to Dr David Holmes, a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, women are having more affairs than ever - recent studies say the figure is around 20 per cent for men and a bit over 15 per cent for women - but they behave very differently from men when they cheat.
'The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret,' he says. 'If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 per cent of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent.' 

Does she feel guilty about the affair? 'Not so long as Adrian doesn't find out. You know the 11th commandment: don't get caught.'
Women have always had affairs, but over the past 20 years that number has risen dramatically.
Jobs outside the home - with the ready-made excuse of working late or business travel - financial independence and changing social attitudes mean that modern women simply have more opportunity to meet other men and start affairs.

Mobile phones, internet chat rooms and email also make it easier to fuel intimate encounters. 

But while women's lives and sexual behaviour might have changed, their willingness to be honest about it hasn't.
The truth is that we have always lied about our sex lives. British men consistently claim to have had more partners than women - the current average is 13, while women claim to have had only nine.

Plainly, someone is lying here. While men might exaggerate their sexual conquests, the bigger liars are women. 
When studies about sexual partners or fidelity use a mixture of face-to-face interviews and anonymous computer questionnaires, men will give the same answers to both, but women will report much higher numbers when the answers are anonymous.
Why do women lie? Because we must, and because we can. In spite of apparent equality and a more sexually open society, we are still more harshly judged for our sex lives than men. 

Monday, October 17, 2011

How to Make Your Man Marry You?

Some men won’t commit to relationship, others aren’t ready to marry just yet and rest are still looking for the right women. Here we will be discussing topics ranging from what types of girls do man like to be in a committed relationship to whether he will every marry you to how to make your man marry you.
What type of girls do men like to marry?
It is just no secret that there are certain types of girls who their boyfriend doesn’t have a plan to marry with. The guys in such relationship doesn’t consider that girl is worthy marrying; so he is in that relationship for a short-term until he finds a right one or loses his patience. Here is the list to traits and personalities of a women that men usually go after to be in a married relationship:
Women with goals. Men gives high priority to the looks, but lets not forget now a days everybody seem to look good regardless of where and what they do. One thing that differentiates them is that not all girls are motivated. Highly motivated girls is a big turn on for men, because men knows they are going to spend the rest of their life with them if they marry with such women.
All rounded girls. What that means is the girl who can play various important roles as they come in – such as wife, mother, accountant, best friend, companionship etc. After all, friendship with other guys is what the guy is going to miss after they marry and have to spend time at home most of the time. But no man expects their woman to be perfect in every aspects of their life.
Reliable and No Break up. Men likes women who are reliable and trustworthy, who won’t cheat on him. Guys don’t want to be the one where people say she broke up with him, instead of he broke up with her. Guys want to feel the little bit of preciousness and value in himself.
Positive attitude: Imagine yourself in your boyfriend’s shoes and see what type of girl he would marry to. Most guys like girls with positive attitude because after marriage you two will be spending time together most of the time and don’t want to be surrounded by negativity and drama.
Will the guy ever marry me?
How to know if your boyfriend will ever marry you? Even though you two call your relationship committed, it is not really one until the engagement day resulting in a marriage. Break up happens far more often than divorce; that’s why marriage is more significant. Sings that your boyfriend is ready to settle down and will propose:
Serial dating: does your man have a long history of dating many women? You have to look at his past dating history and what type of relationships were those, if he dated a same type of girl like you are before and kinda were in same relationship as you are in right now then it’s a warning sign. It is also good idea to look at how his past relationships didn’t work, especially why it didn’t lead to marriage.
Why he is into you: this is probably the most important question to ask yourself if you are a girl wondering if your man will ever marry you. If your boyfriend is into you because you offer something that you are going to have for a long period of time and willing to share with with him, then he will probably be committed to you. If your boyfriend is into you simply because he gets to sleep with you, then it’s not the right direction you two are going towards; this is because eventually he will go after other girls to sleep with as well.
Give and take balanced: a committed relationship isn’t just about having somebody live with you; it is about sharing and caring for each other for as long as one could. There should be a balance of give and take between the two in a marriage; one can’t always be offering without receiving anything in back. The guy can be helping with the hard heavy work around the house, while women does the small light duties; what this does is there is an equal share of work.
Arguments: if you have an argument with your man all the time, the chances of him marrying you is slim. Usually the small fights and arguments happen in every relationship, even after the marriage; but if it is happening almost every day right now, it will happen very often after the marriage. For men, arguing with a woman is one of the most disliked thing and thus marrying with that women will be avoided at all cost.
Get your man to marry you game plan
Here are list of things you can do to make a man to marry you, even though not all of them might work for everybody but some of these can be part of your own game plan to make your man propose you and result in a marriage.
Ask yourself if you are ready before wondering if he is. Both of you are in a loving relationship for few years now, but the reason your boyfriend hasn’t proposed you could be because you didn’t show any interest or bring it in a conversation yet. It is important that you make sure you definitely want to have a family with him and he knows that before he reaches out to you. Sometimes when man thinks that women has a doubt about marriage still, he might be afraid to ask. So this is about making sure you want to marry him and you making it clear to him some way.
Demand monogamy. Taking one step to be in a monogamous relationship with your man can make it much closer to marrying him. When the girl demands monogamy, guy often feels flattered and secured even though he might not say it since it shows you love him very much and only want him and willing to be in faithful and committed relationship.
Here are some of the best tips to get a man to marry you:

Step 1: Make sure he is in love with you as well, not just you falling in love this this man. That is he wants to be with you now and in the future.
Step 2: Understand your man’s personality first. Some man are shy even in a relationship, whereas others can’t wait to say things to their girl.
Step 3: Talk openly about marriage, when situation allows, without making him feel forced into it.
Step 4: Be patient. Just give him time to make decision. Marriage is to be taken seriously; you don’t want a guy who proposes you one second and in another second he is not sure if you are the right girl for him.
Step 5: Prepare for wedding. Live happily ever after with you beloved man. LOL.

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Thursday, October 13, 2011

Seven steps to more sensual sex

Are your bedroom basics becoming boring? Spice up your repertoire and reignite the fires of passion in your relationship with these top tips from The Lovers' Guide
1 Pamper your senses
Sensual loving begins with indulging and lavishing attention on your body. When women feel stressed, tired or run-down, they often lose the desire for sex. Take time to give your body a treat; indulge yourself and awaken your five senses of smell, sound, sight, touch and taste.
Self-pampering gives our senses a kick-start. Book yourself a quiet night in; turn off your mobile, dim the lights and let yourself relax. Try having a long, hot bath with scented candles and sensual oils, whilst playing relaxing and uplifting music. Lie back, close your eyes and concentrate on taking deep breaths. This simple exercise will unlock your potential for relaxed, alert physical pleasure.
2 Enhance masturbation
Both women and men can be a little too goal-oriented when masturbating, focusing on the end point, rather than enjoying the whole journey. Savour the pleasure by prolonging the experience.
Let your hands wander all over your body, touching yourself as you would like a lover to touch you. Seek out your sensitive spots and linger on them; your buttocks and inner thigh can be especially sensitive.
When you are with your partner, masturbate together and show each other how you like to be touched. The more you and your partner can arouse each other all over, not just through the penis or clitoris, the more sensual your lovemaking will become.
3 Indulge in fantasies
Some people worry about their sexual fantasies, but really there's no need. Your fantasies are a healthy expression of your inner life. Don't worry if you wouldn't consider doing them in real life; this isn't 'real life,' so you can let yourself go.
Your fantasies might be romantic scenarios, involve 'kinky' toys, or be just downright depraved! They may involve sex in public, with more than one partner, or might even be forced sex fantasies - expressing an inner, often unconscious desire to break free of any sexual limits or repressions that you may have.
You might also want to share your fantasies with your partner - or play out a few . Even if you don't want to make your fantasies a reality, talking about them with your partner can take you both to a new level of intimacy.
4 Embrace emotional intimacy
Communication is the key to great sex. There might be things we feel we can't say for fear of being hurt, especially if we've had a bad experience or been let down in the past. However, if you can't communicate properly with a partner, you can become distant from one another - and that distance will affect your love-making.
Make sure you're able to ask for an 'emotional hold' when you need - be that a hug or some words of reassurance - and that you're able to offer the same when it's asked of you. Don't be afraid to show your partner your 'bad side' - any weaknesses you have, or ways in which you feel you don't quite match up.
Your sex life with your partner is a reflection of the rest of your relationship. A healthy level of emotional intimacy with each other will come through in the bedroom, and lead to a far more sensual experience for both of you.
5 Walk sexy, talk sexy, think sexy!
There's nothing sexier than confidence, especially when it spills out between the sheets! Even if you're not feeling confident, learn how to fake it!
Pretend that you're a confident woman that oozes sex appeal. It takes 28 days to change a habit, so if you start thinking every day that you are a beautiful woman who oozes sex appeal, in one month's time you will be that person.
People respond to the image portrayed, so if you think and act sexy, you'll find that the people around you will think that too!
6 Create a sensual love nest
Is your bedroom sexy? Is it well and truly dedicated to making love? Is it clean, crisp and fresh? Or is it simply more of a room to sleep in, not make love in?
Think about what is in your bedroom that reminds you of sex, it's often the small touches that make a difference. Warm vibrant colours like reds, pinks and oranges enhance sensuality.
Create a setting that you would like to make love in. Replace tinny radios, fluffy toys and mangy blankets with arousing scents such as lavender, rose and ylang ylang to stimulate the senses. Your bedroom should relax you and help you to feel aroused - and sensually switched on.
Lastly, reposition the mirror to get a more exciting view.
7 Keep talking
Why is it hard to discuss sex with our partners? Usually, it's because of repressions - the nagging sense that sex is a bit secretive and should be kept 'sectioned off' from the rest of who we are.
By getting into a 'habit' of talking to each other during sex, you are breaking down repressive barriers and paving the way for more expressive and intimate pleasure.
Talking doesn't mean giving each other a running commentary of their performance - although that can be a great way to learn what each other likes!

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trends

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #2: Color. For colder seasons designers normally prefer using neutral or reserved colors like black, brown, navy, cream, dark violet, etc. However, Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 collections abound in brighter hues like crimson, neon orange, purple, sky blue and others. Besides, these eye-popping tones can come in daring combinations. See Haider Ackermann, Alberta Ferretti, Victoria Beckham, Tommy Hilfiger, Burberry Prorsum, and other designers and brands for inspiration. (Read COLOR TRENDS FOR FALL/ WINTER 2011/ 2012)

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #3: Fetish. This trendhas come very unexpected. The most surprising thing is that so many designers have taken it so seriously. Marc Jacobs has built both Louis Vuitton and Marc Jacobs collections on fetish and domitatrix themes. Gaga’s favorite designer Mugler, Giles, Antonio Berardi, Marios Schwab as well as Viktor & Rolf and Givenchy have all featured this Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 trend in their ranges.
Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #4: Texture Overload.Everything is mixed in Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 collections. Silk comes along with fur and knitwear, sequins and leather make a perfect combination and even plastic goes well with chiffon and wool. Sounds crazy? It does. And it does look a bit crazy, too.
Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #5: 40s Elegance.Fashion repeats itself. In Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 40s elegance is again a hot trend. The best approach to reinvent this fashion era has been realized by Gucci, John Galliano, Miu Miu, and Jonathan Saunders.

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #6: Midi and Maxi skirts. Miniskirts are always popular, especially with teenagers. But for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 you better embrace the longer length skirts. These can look as sexy as minis because your sex appeal depends on how you wear your clothes, not the type of clothing you wear. Find midis and maxis in Dries Van Noten, Chloe, Balenciaga, Roland Mouret, Antonio Marras, St.John and other designer collections.

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #7: Prints. The variety of prints in Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 collections is huge: from tiny polka dots in Gucci and broken glass in Stella McCartney to girly paisley in Anna Sui and bold flowers in Versace. There are also baroque prints in Jonathan Saunders, photographic flowers at Giambattist Valli, Miu Miu’s glittering spring flowers, enlarged feathers at Ungaro, panthers in Givenchy’s, and plenty of other prints in other designer collections. You just need to understand what print you want because you can have everything.

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #8: Pleats and Frills.While gender play trend is going forward at a steady gait some designers think femininity should be preserved. It’s the greatest news for those girls who don’t want to transform into strong and courageous men and prefer to remain fragile women. Pleats, frills, cute rosettes and lovely embroidery help us look romantic. And we sometimes want to look romantic, don’t we? Prettiest pleats can be found in Valentino, Oscar de la Renta and Christian Dior Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 collections.

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #9: Zoological. Besides zoological prints, like leopard and python, to which we have already got accustomed due to the fact every single season designers use these in their creations, in Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 ranges we see lots of feathers, wild animals printed on fabric (Givenchy, Marc by Marc Jacobs, Topshop and Ungaro), hats in shape of lions and panthers at Anna Sui, etc. Fashion goes really wild.

Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 Fashion Trend #10 Chunky Knit Sweater. .Fall and winter are cold seasons, so there is no wonder why designers have included warm chunky sweaters into their collections. Missoni is the main producer of knitted sweaters. You can see a great variety of knitted items in their Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 line.

Shoe Trends Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012

Shoe trends for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 are as diverse as ever so that every woman could find something for herself. If we speak about the color scheme, then the trendiest tones for the upcoming fashion season are: black, white, stone, metallic, beige, burgundy, dark blue, chocolate, deep violet, khaki and red. Bright hues are scarce, which is normal as we prefer wearing darker colors during autumn and winter.

Materials that prevail in Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 shoe collections include: ordinary leather, patent and reptile skins, suede and satin. There is also a lot lace and occasional fur this season.

One more thing is worth mentioning before we start enumeratingshoe trends for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 – this fashion season both pike and round toes are popular. This means you can stick to your favorite shape of shoe and still be very fashionable.

Now let’s start:

Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #1: Reptile skins.Reptile leather is going to be very trendy during Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012. Dozens designers opted for snake skin to create their shoes from. Crocodile leather isn’t as popular but it is still widely found in Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 footwear ranges. For reptile skins see Balenciaga, Giorgio Armani, Chloe, Donna Karan, Michael Kors, Louis Vuitton, Valentino and other collections.

Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #2: Patent leather.This type of leather maybe a bit unpractical to wear and less versatile than ordinary leather, but no one will ever argue on the fact patent leather looks gorgeous. For Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012you can go for super bold color combinations like red and black, black and white, blue and burgundy. See how Mark Jacobs, and Viktor & Rolf use color blocking in their Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 shoe collections.

Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #3: Suede. Good suede looks luxurious and designers know that better than others because almost every fashion season we see thousands of different shoe designs made of this material. During Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012suede is very trendy and it comes in a variety of shades. Diane von Furstenberg offers a lot of styles to choose from.
Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #4: Satin. Satin shoescan hardly be worn daily but for special occasion they are the best. Looking totally chic satin shoes come as a very beautifulshoe trend of Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012.

Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #5: Platforms and wedges. Wedge trend has transferred to Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 from the previous season. But if in Spring/ Summer 2011 we have seen colorful and unusual platforms for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 designs are more modest and elegant.
Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #6: Lacing. As well as the wedge trend, lacing has been brought by designers fromSpring/ Summer 2011 fashion season. And we also see the transformation of the style. Lacing, which used to be rather delicate and feminine in Spring, has become sexier and more aggressive in Fall and Winter. See Alexander McQueen, Marc Jacobs, Rag & Bone for lacing.

Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #7: Plenty of buckles.Fashion repeats itself. A couple of seasons ago we already spoke about buckles but then they nearly all disappeared just to return now in a larger diversity.
Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #8: Chunky heel. It is quite reasonable that chunky heels appear during colder seasons as they provide comfort and confidence we all need at this time. InFall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 collections there are plenty of shoes with chunky heels. Styles of these shoes are very different, from classy pumps to rocker boots.
Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #9: Spike heels.Chunky heels are comfy but they will never be as stylish and sexy as spike heels, that’s why designers always create loads of shoeswith stilettos. Women love them because they love looking sexy.
Shoe Trend for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 #10: Socks in shoes.Few women really like wearing socks in their shoes but after Rihanna appeared in public sporting pumps with a pair of socks millions of her fans started copying her. If socks in shoes seem too much for you try warm tights instead. At least you will look more elegant.